Sorry Fox & Friends, but it’s on…

I am completely inflamed by the Fox & Friends team who openly insulted Pagans/Wiccans across the globe with such ignorant and misinformed garbage.  From statements such as “Good luck (being a Pagan) in other another country”, or “Any religion whose biggest holiday is Halloween, I just can’t take seriously”.  And “Every Wiccan I’ve ever known is a compulsive Dungeons and Dragons player, or is a middle aged, twice divorced older woman living in a rural area who works as a midwife.  Oh totally, yeah.”

I was appalled. I was disgusted.  I was amazed that a news station ever allowed this to air! So, I joined my fellow Pagans and wrote my own scathing letter in response to their open ignorance.  And sure, maybe some poor intern who has to sift through all the inbound e-mails may have to read this, but when I saw that broadcast, I just could not keep my rage to myself.  And maybe I wasn’t tough enough in some people’s opinion, but I can only give my view of Paganism, how we do exist, how many of us are normal, “down to earth” people, who work regular jobs in all fields.  We are here, our religious rights are subject to the same respect as any religion that is recognized.  Maybe they thought they were being some obscure form of funny, but they were just plain offensive and I just could not find the strength to let it go.  So, I have joined the cause, the actual Causes page, the Facebook Group, the Twitter feed, I’m in to my chin and if some of us don’t stand proudly, and speak plainly and honestly, then soon we may find ourselves as hunted as the people of Africa, who are openly burning their fellow human beings alive under the accusation of witchcraft.  Ok, so I’m mad, obviously, and I had some choice words about their statements. I now post my lengthy e-mail of disgust:

SUBJECT:  Offensive statements towards Paganism. What you should know.

To Whom It May Concern;

I am so offended by the statements made by your Fox & Friends team regarding Wicca/Paganism.  So, I thought I would take a bit of my time to explain it to you.  It is clear your staff is in need of a truthful, direct education of religion’s that exist but are not their beliefs.

First and foremost, I am a Pagan (not a Wiccan, you’re people aren’t even aware there is a difference).  I have been a Pagan since the age of 15 (which is 23 years to date).  And I come from a home that began as two parents of different religious beliefs.  My mother was raised as a 7th Day Adventist, while my father was raised as a Catholic.  Through the years, my mother examined many different religions under the Christian umbrella and took me along for the ride.  I was exposed to just about every religion there is, Christian and otherwise.  I went to Temple with friends from school when I spent the night, I went to a Buddhist Temple many times because Buddhism I have found it to be a very calming religion. I have been to Catholic, Protestant, Evangelical, Baptist, and many other Christian masses and ceremonies.  Believe it or not, I’m even a God Parent to 2 Children, one of which is from a Catholic Household, and I constantly get her Catholic items such as her own personalized Bible, rosaries, prayer rings, prayer cards, and other related items.  I made an oath to be a good role model and to keep her informed of the religion her parents have Baptized her in.  So, I hope that shows you Pagans do not hate Christianity, as we believe all faiths are different perspectives of the same faith.  I have no hatred towards Christianity or any religion for that matter, I only have sadness that news stations would openly promote and put horribly ignorant misconceptions out there.

Part of Paganism is the understanding of religion, all religion.  It is not about rebellion, or casting spells, or being malicious.  I am not a spell caster, I do not embrace dark arts as a means of a shortcut to what I want from life or to torment people.  Because as an adult, I would think it would be clear to any logical mind that there are no shortcuts.  I would think it’s clear that when some one does you a wrong, they will have to deal with it on some level at some point in their life.  And Paganism is not Polytheistic because we think there is a God or Goddess for everything, it is Polytheistic because there is a face, a persona, for every situation or need.  And quite frankly, the Christian belief system is not all that different in that respect.  I direct you to all the Saints, which people call upon when a child is lost, or when you wish to find something, or when you need personal guidance.  Are you really so ignorant that you fail to see how SIMILAR all religions are?  We just don’t tie ourselves down to one of 3 persona’s (Father, Son & Holy Spirit/Ghost).  Or maybe, to me deity is a female persona and I believe women tend to confide in their sisters/mothers/female friends because of the female bond, so my deity would be imagined as female.  Honestly, if you believe women are equal to men, then a philosophy such as Christianity would be somewhat offensive to us, in their masculine beliefs.  But maybe, it’s a perspective that some feel comfortable with, while others do not.  You would not put out such misinformation on Judaism, would you?  Imagine that, your own Fox & Friends team making anti-semitic slurs against the Jewish faith?  That wouldn’t be prudent, yet it is acceptable towards Wiccans and/or Pagans?  I think not.  I think it is disgusting, disturbing and misinformation being spread by a NEWS Channel!!!!  You’re people need to be informed.  So, if you have any questions, you feel free to ask me if you don’t think others would hazard to answer, because I would tell you anything you wish to know in an truthful, direct and open minded fashion.

What’s more, I have actually taken time to learn about other belief systems, so I know and understand with some sense of personal education what I agree or disagree with in that belief and why.  But people hear Wiccan/Pagan and they think they can talk put of their rumps with no valid information about what they speak of.  Insulting, poor reporting, totally lacking in integrity.  I do not cast spells, but I believe if you focus (with meditation/visualization) that it can help you be more focused towards you goal, it can actually affect your how successful you are in achieving it.  That’s not magic, or witchcraft, that’s common sense.  You focus on something and you can do anything. Or are we raising children to believe what some adults obviously cannot?  We tell them: you are capable of anything, if you put your mind to it.  And that should be truth.  But if it helps to meditate/visualize or focus more on that goal, it’s witchcraft?  Are you serious?  Or, if I believe that we are all connected on a subconscious level, I would be ridiculed for my personal opinion by the people on television representing your news channel?  Or maybe, energy itself is what connects all things.  Maybe science is currently working to unravel that particular theory.  But if a scientist said it, would you really be all intrigued or would you be acting intrigued in order to not look like a barbaric, low minded individual, who places religion before science, before proof?

Maybe your staff hasn’t known of any Pagans/Wiccans in their circles because they are obviously not capable of being open minded or accepting of things they don’t understand.  Maybe they have met a dozen of us and these people never made their beliefs known because they might be ridiculed or persecuted for it.  Or maybe they did not want to have to deflect attempts of conversion?  We are more numerous than most people realize, however, not many of us are completely open, because some people still live in fear of being persecuted.  I know I generally wait a few months to get to know some one and how strict they are in belief before I choose to share my philosophies.  Some people don’t want to understand, but every one is worthy of friends, and no one can agree with every thing another person believes, friends, family or otherwise.  It’s not possible, it’s not our nature.  Are you even aware that right now, in Africa, villages are burning people alive in accusation of witchcraft?  In this day and age, some of us feel we have to be sheltered from the general public for fear of being openly persecuted by people who have forgotten that this country was founded on the ideal of Human Rights, the right to Freedom of Religion.  But apparently, that only applies to certain people’s beliefs, majority maybe?  Our forefathers should be rolling in their graves.

So many Christian beliefs are built upon Pagan roots.  The original celebration of Easter used to require the sacrifice of a goat and spreading the blood around the door for protection.  Seems a bit odd, considering Jesus was sacrificed, yet the Pagans or Wiccans are thought to offer sacrifices.  In many cultures, Christian based or not, wine is poured onto the ground to show reverence or honor to a loved one.  And showing reverence is not much different than showing our respect and offering our deity a show of honor, a small personal sacrifice, notice it’s WINE and not a cat (most Pagans and Wiccans are extreme animal lovers because we respect life.  It would be barbaric and anti-productive to destroy what we love, and certainly not something a logical individual or group would do). Yet, Christianity purposefully incorporated Pagan traditions in order to bring in Pagans, since they built all their churches in the places our Temples once stood.  But even Christians aren’t aware or would argue otherwise because they aren’t even educated in the history of their own religion!

And by now, if you have any clue at all, you may be wondering the difference between Wiccan and Paganism.  Let me take Christianity as an example to illustrate the small but important differences.  Just like Christianity is broken into so many different beliefs, such as Catholic, Protestant, Baptist, even Mormon, and the list goes on, Wicca is one of the beliefs within the Pagan belief system.  Technically, Hindu would also be Pagan, because Paganism is Polytheistic (Multiple Deities, embracing the feminine, masculine and neutral/transgendered perspectives) while Judaism, Christianity,  or Islamic are Monotheistic (One Deity, embraces the masculine perspective).  What’s more is, aside from allowing for many faces of Deity, Monotheistic religion is not all that different, especially when you take into fact Christianity and the Holy Trinity.  That’s three perspectives of the same God.  Yet, when I pray to a Goddess (who is merely my female perspective of deity, an imagined face for something I can only have faith exists), I’m a witch.  I’m not a woman, seeing religion from an adult female mind as a female force in the Universe.  Why wouldn’t I relate with a female Head of Spirituality, and what’s more, why SHOULDN’T I?  What justifies that?  Now, to clarify, within the Pagan belief system, there are many different branches.  Wiccans believe very much in being a positive affect on the world around them.  And I am a Pagan, which means I accept them as a natural part of the balance.  But I do not believe that I am only a positive affect on my surroundings, I believe life is subject to chaos, and we need people who follow positive beliefs as much as we need people to be negative influences. (With out sadness, how can we understand happiness?  And if I have never been happy, how would I understand being sad?)  I believe I influence my surroundings as a neutral force, I do good things (I very much enjoy volunteering for good causes and to have positive experiences) but I know I am capable of making judgement in error, which could very well affect some one around me in a negative manner.

You could ask my Catholic Parents (yes, my Mother has chosen to follow Catholicism/Catechism) any day of the week: is your Pagan daughter a good person?  And they would tell you: Yes, she is kind, is a philanthropist, and not only understands morals and values, but she is informed and respectful towards the beliefs of others.  They could also say that although they originally taught me to be kind and giving, I now continue to remind them.  One hand always washes the other, regardless of what my faith is or what your faith is, or their faith.  And we have a wonderful bond, my parents are my best friends.  I can and will tell them everything, they are my support system in life, and I always know they will give me good advice, and be patient and honest with me when I make a mistake.  But that also goes both ways, so we will always have trust and truth between us.  (I wish every one could experience the bond of my family as I have).

I do feel that there are some Pagans/Wiccans out there who are, in fact, purposefully misrepresenting the belief system or are actually misinformed themselves.  Some people use Paganism to rebel, some fall into it in hopes of finding some personal power as if life were a movie (which isn’t the truth, we have the same “powers” as any one else, the power of self, what the individual does with what they have).  People come to Pagan and Wiccan beliefs sometimes, for the wrong reasons, and believe it or not, that happens in ALL religions, not just ours.  While there really are others out there who don’t wish people to know or understand our beliefs because they are sacred, they are verbally handed down, and they are not for outsiders in some circles.  And I am offering you information solely based on my personal beliefs, knowledge and self education as a Pagan.  I am only showing you my personal opinion, what Paganism means to me.

I don’t demand an apology.  I would hope an apology to my community is offered willingly because your people are aware of the misinformation they spread and understand that they were callously offensive regarding a subject they were not informed about and had no business addressing in the first place.  I would think personal value of belief and the acceptance of Freedom of Religion would win out over their petty ignorance and they may offer an honest apology with true sincerity for openly spreading a poorly developed understanding of a faith that is not their own.  And I would encourage them to become informed.  Our communities are all over.  Google the local Pagan communities already in place in your local region and you might start to wonder, if there are so few of us, then why are there already so many existing Pagan related events/pages/newsletters/local websites or stores.  You may even find a coven or two.  But after such inappropriate statements, good luck getting many to speak to your station, it was wrong and openly meant to be inflammatory.

You have certainly lost my faith as a reputable news source.  I think your shows ought to be on a delay in order to strike out any statements that would be found openly offensive or a blatant show of ignorance while representing Fox News in any capacity.  If they can do it because of a super bowl half time show snafu, than your team has definitely earned your news station that same infamous honor.

Deeply Disappointed,
Mala Moragain

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Maybe I’m Just A Little Off The Wall….

Ok, so like many people, I have some seriously odd sleeping habits.  I prefer nights and for some strange reason it’s like I’m conditioned to a 36 hour schedule.  It’s as if I can easily stay up for 24 hours and sleep for 12 hours.  And it feels normal to me, but I know it’s not.

So, all this time at night, to myself, alone with my thoughts and bad television leads to some odd conclusions and theories.  Or, maybe it’s just my crazy sleep schedule.

For starters, as some one who believes in reincarnation, I wonder if maybe I’m stuck on some cycle from a past life.  And if there is life on earth, in my opinion, it’s reasonable to assume there is life elsewhere in the Universe.  So, if there’s life on other planets, and reincarnation, why would we be stuck coming back to only the same planet?  So, then I wonder: What if, in a past life, I was on a planet with 36 hour day cycles?

In my mind, even writing it here, it doesn’t sound completely out of the realm of possibility.    But then that gets me thinking about the way we live our lives, what we want versus what society expects.  And I can’t help but wonder why society has any right to expect me to live what they consider a traditional lifestyle. Maybe I was happier in that past life, on some distant planet, because they encouraged each other to follow their desires.

What’s even more unusual, and reenforces my belief in collective consciousness, is the fact that I know there are a lot of other people who feel a bit disheartened with life as we know it.  It can be stifling and inhibiting.

I don’t think people are meant to fit into an expected regiment of 9-5 life.  More of us than not are actually creative, emotionally charged individuals.  We don’t and can’t fit the norm.  We aren’t sheep or cattle, content to live out our lives in monotony.  We dream, we feel, we are high maintenance creatures.

Enter subcultures, right?  If your not one of the norms, you’re considered one of those “outsiders”.  And I am sure this started with the perspectives of at least 2 generations ago.  I mean, the people who would be my Grandparents age see tattoo’s, piercings, creative hair or clothes as being one of those crazy kids. But from my generations perspective (being of GenX), it’s normal.  These are our friends or acquaintances (or ourselves), the people we have grown up with, our peers.

I can say from experience, in my immediate family, I definitely stand out as “one of those”. Out of my parents, my brother and myself (I can even go as far as including my husband and my daughter), I am the only one with tattoo’s.  I have 16 piercings (15 of which are in my ears, I leave the last your imagination, but don’t give me too much credit for being more adventurous than I actually am).

But mine is the generation that really got to play with identity and personal presentation with a bit less persecution than previous generations. The 80’s are a perfect example of that! And I think, with my generation, with the mindset of an 80’s loving person, our hearts and minds were open to a way of life that was previously unavailable.  For instance, what in my grandparents youth was 24 hours?  Maybe the police station and hospitals.  But not a whole lot else.

Now we can do any kind of shopping we want, 24/7, even from home if we want. We are completely connected, through TV or computers or especially smartphones. And I know a lot of other people who seem as disillusioned with life as I do.  As if we’re missing something. And we are.  We have so much convenience and no challenges. Just 2 generations prior to mine, life still held some spark, some feeling of excitement and accomplishment. And I’m sorry, I love the game, but you don’t really get that even from WOW (well, if you do, then I envy you).

We have become a generation of couch potato’s because we can no longer get opportunities in our personal area’s of interest without an education or some serious experience in a field. We can have all the passion in the world, but if we aren’t the studious student, or have the right connections (or “their” very limited idea of experience), we will never even find our dreams.

The happy people are usually the one’s who realize their passions young.  When you know it’s a bit easier to throw yourself in.  When you get serious knowledge at a young age, you are bound to be successful with your passion. But what if we don’t find our passion until we are in the midst of our adult life? Most of us wind up feelings stuck to financial obligations and without any real energy to pursue extra curricular activities.

What’s worse is having to pay for an education, most likely while working full time to support a family. Even as a middle class person, there are times it is hard to make ends meet. There are few services out there available to help with these types of moments when you want (need?) to turn your life around.  And if we aren’t conditioned constantly to being an energetic person, then we stand even less of a chance.

And we always have a million reason not to make that leap of faith into something new and capable of completely destroying us. If we don’t take that leap, then we are lazy (or scared of failure, which to some of us feels awfully familiar, even if we aren’t necessarily “un”-successful).  Or if we take that leap (GERONIMO!) and fall on our face, we’re an idiot for throwing everything away to try something new an exciting. And what’s worse than worse is falling on our faces only to find ourselves in financial ruin for trying to attain those out of reach dreams.

Now, I have a lot of ideas on how to make this society work for “us”, the weirdo’s, the outsiders. But who would listen? I know a lot of people actually may, but a part of me fears we may be outnumbered by the norms still. But we all know, deep within, it’s probably time to take a real hard look at our society and what we really want from it.

I could go on, really, I could.  But the majority of me thinks that Maybe I’m Just A Little Off The Wall.

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Inspiration – House of Leaves

I’m not too sure how many people who read my blog have read House of Leaves.  It’s ingenious, through and through.  In fact, I got a copy for Christmas (many thanks for the book gift cards!!!), and just like the story, the book itself is actually bigger on the inside than it is on the outside!  It’s very cool, indeed!

So, what does that have to do with my current mood of inspiration?  Well, I’ll tell you.  Part of the legend of House of Leaves is how it was originally distributed.  Just as “The Navidson Record” was “rumored” to have been released to the internet in bits and piece, so was the original drafts of House of Leaves.  A very cool and inventive source of marketing!

With that said, and an idea in mind, I was considering releasing a story via the internet.  However, just as bloggers want exposure, readers want intrigue and substance.  So, yes, in part this would be a way to bring more readers to my blog.  But, it will also bring book lovers a new tale with the catch that my loyal blog followers would get first dibs on the story, as well as offering perspective.

My initial idea is to release all the odd numbered chapters right here in my blog.  I would then prepare a newsletter for my followers and release the even numbered chapters to subscribers readers only.

If any one likes this idea, please let me know.  I have an idea of the genre, but if there is something specific you would like to see, I am always open to ideas!  And any ideas used would get credited accordingly (for an example, check out any Piers Anthony “Xanth” novels, as he credits people in the back of each book for people who sent in pun ideas).

Lastly, genre’s I will NOT entertain are romance, slashers and pornography.  Just putting that right out there.  Not to say there won’t be any romance theme’s (probably more crimes of passion, without the gore, or a perspective on genuine emotion and how it affects the people they encounter), but they would be in good taste and I guarantee there will be no “throbbing manhood” piercing the soft virginity of this that or the other in some stable yonder.

So…… Should I get at least 10 comments, here or on my facebook or twitter pages, then it’s a go and I will start seeing about putting up a newsletter subscribing option!  If I hear from no one, then I may just do it anyway!  There may be truth in the old saying: The More The Merrier, however, a small club of few is often a great way to spread the word as well!

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Wishful (Probably for nothing)

It’s that time of year

I’m told a time of cheer

But it seems to have passed me by

My cheer is just a poorly hidden lie

There’s only one of me

But there needs to be at least three

To be here, there, and everywhere

How is that even fair?

I travel so far for family and friends

Give it my all until the very end

So, I could go on and on…  Ever since Thanksgiving, my life has just been unravelled.  So, I guess the state of my current mood is pretty obvious.  But I will say, I’m thankful that my parents are coming up to see Shawn and I for Christmas.  That’s more than I could have expected.  And believe me, my expectations right now are pretty low, Filine’s Basement, Rock Bottom low.

What’s the point of expecting anything?  I mean, people always do what’s easy.  In this day and age, technology is God and real people are of no consequence.  You know what’s easy for me?  Discarding expectations, not bothering to leave the house, realizing that I was just an unwanted pawn in some one else’s end game.

So, I’ve stopped waiting for calls I know will never come.  I mean, I wasn’t all that important anyway, right? There’s nothing quite like feeling like a complete failure for the holidays.

With that said, my next blogs will be back to normal, a facade of hidden heartbreak behind a fake smile.  I think the hardest part is knowing I did everything I was able to.  And how foolish I was to expect the same respect.

In the spirit of the holidays, and in an effort to keep the suicide rate to a manageable level, I push my sadness back down into the pit of my soul, pull up my socks, and continue to fight like a brave for, well, a whole lot of nothing.

Thnks fr th Mmrs, now I’ll go try to pick out what was real.

Happy Freakin Holiday’s Folks.  It can only get better, right? (Here’s hoping, probably for nothing).

(Holiday Sidenote:  In case you see me smile this Holiday Season, keep in mind, I probably just thought about the cast of Friends and how they still have a good 10 years on me.  Even disbanded at least the Friends Cast can still make me smile.  Gods love em!)

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Well, if there is one thing I can honestly say, it’s that my family always puts the fun in dysfunctional!  Truly, from the outside looking in, most people wouldn’t have any clue how very odd we are as a clan.  Not that we mind what people think anyways, it’s just one of those quiet truths that our family, in particular, is kind of proud of.

But, I have to say one thing.  As dysfunctional as we may be, my parents DID instill a sense of honesty, independence and etiquette when dealing with those who are not familiar with our sense of humor or inappropriate off-handed comments (which we try to keep within our households).

Let me start with: I’m not always the first to say I’m sorry.  However, that doesn’t mean I’m not.  And when things aren’t going as planned, sometimes one needs to take a step back.  It doesn’t mean I care any less, it just means that there is something to be contemplated.  And in all reality, I know that saying I’m sorry means less than showing some one I am sorry.

Maybe this is easier said than done for some people.  But being raised in an open minded home, with open minded and accepting parents, I was always given the benefit of the doubt to make the right choices. Not because it’s what was expected of me.  But because what’s best isn’t always the route I want to take, either because of pride, or stubbornness.

But I always respect my elders, even if I don’t necessarily agree.  I don’t assume people give me their unsolicited advice because they want to control me.  People who love us are supposed to be protective to some extent.  And even though my family and I don’t always agree, we always love and find a way to move beyond.  But all of that takes two things, effort and love.  It takes the motivation, the drive, the need to keep those who mean something to us safe, it means not always taking the easy path.  It means being solid inside and out.  And most of all, this etiquette has taught me how to live a life that I can be proud of.  I’m not perfect, but I won’t answer you with 2 word responses.  I won’t choose want over need when it comes to a loved one’s well being.  And maybe I will have to postpone something here or there for some one I care about.  But that’s what makes family (blood or those long time friends who are the equivalent) all worth it in the end.

Family will be there when you need a shoulder.  Will be there when you need advice.  Will be there when you share happy or sad news.  Point in case, they will always be there. To ignore them isn’t just disrespectful, it’s like saying it wasn’t worth it.  Missing those few times that life affords to enjoy each other always comes with a sense of regret, loss, time we will never get back.  And you may be surprised how much something as simple as a phone call can put things right, or at very least, on the mend.

Etiquette –

The customary code of polite behavior in society or among members of a particular profession or group.

Doesn’t it make sense that this mindset start within our family or circle of friends?  Isn’t this the ideal that we wish to pass along to the next generation?  Maybe we can’t create Utopia for society, but we should be able to offer a safe haven for all those who touch our heart, light our life and live in our souls.

(I thank my parents for teaching me chivalry and etiquette, as it is a constant reminder to treat others as I would want to be treated).

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What people will do for money! :-O

So, Shawn was kind enough to bring home a paper, the Saturday Sun…  And I only got around to looking at it tonight.  Wow, it’s been a while since I read the Sun and I can’t help but laugh every time I read through it.

I’m not criticizing articles or staff.  Truly, it’s a decent paper.  It’s the classified’s where I really get my laughs.  No, seriously.  It gives me horrible idea’s that would probably work better then I would expect, yet again lowering my faith in humanity, and causing the recurring revelation of how stupid some people really are.

For instance, after reading the classified’s this evening, I was half ready to create my own horrible business that I fear would make much more money that it ought to.  My business would be:

Voodoo I Do – an advert placed in the weekly classified’s which reads: I do voodoo for those you wish to undo!  Call: 1-900-xxx-xxxx.  Then, when these moronic mental midgets actually call (seeking vengeance on another person by means of voodoo, mind you), I will personally answer the phone and yell: SUCKER!  Then hang up, all the while giggling at the $6.95 they just spent calling the 900 #.  In all fairness, this would all pay for itself.

So, while this horrible thought crosses my mind, I of course start in with the giggling. To my husband this appears to be an insane giggle fit for no real reason, which sometimes causes him to worry about me for a moment or two.  He gives: What already?!?

I read him the advert that started the whole process:  Hon, this ad is nuts…  Listen:  WORLD FAMOUS ASTROLOGER!!!  Expert Psychic & Spiritual Healer!  100% Guaranteed Results – Protection within 24h – Love, Health, Job, Money, Jealousy, Business, Children, Sickness, Enemy, Sexual, Divorce & more – “I can hadle any kind of problem” Expert in Black Magic/Private & Confidential – Full Reading $5.00

That is typed exactly as printed, typo’s too!  And I don’t know what I found more entertaining, the thought that this guy actually makes money with an advert like this, or the thought that there were really people out there willing to give money to a guy like this!

So, with that said, how could VooDoo I Do NOT work?!?!  Aside from the lack of morality one would have to have to post such an advert, to answer it says even less about a person.  What’s the old saying: “A fool and his money are easily parted”?  I think this may prove that rule!

(FYI: Voodoo I Do is actually a book, so I would NOT recommend any one try to utilize this horrible, yet possibly lucrative idea.  Seriously, just don’t)

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Uh oh, the rant….

Ok, so I’m on facebook…  Who isn’t, right?  I try to be very politically correct on my facebook for the simplest of reasons, I don’t push chaos, it doesn’t need a push, so it won’t get it from me.  I see chaos, I might smirk or giggle for a second and walk away, or I might feel obligated to say something direct and move it along somewhere, any where, else.
So, it was with a little alarm, and a lot of self control, that I put something a little controversial out there.  Mind you, I am NOT a politically correct person by nature.  I work hard at it, because society is immense and without a little patience and drive to want a healthy future for our future generations, I really do put my mind, heart and soul into being positive to myself and to those around me.  I have most often found, that when I need that same gentle reassurance, that positive re-affirmation, I find the pessimists in full flourish.  So, if I’m around, I will be the positive voice, I will reassure, I will help people figure it out, or just give them a shoulder and hug until they are ready to have some input.  OK, I’m on another rant from my original one…  So time for me to focus…

So, esentially, this all start with my friend sharing a posting on facebook.  Her post mentioned that some one stated they were not allowed to give blood because they are gay.  Now, as I stated, I am open minded.  I’m not easily offended, either.  And, most importantly, I grew up with a lot of friends, many of whom are gay.  I do not approve of people bashing gay people.  And most of the people I surround myself with feel the same way I do.  And for the record, if some one is anti gay marriage, or along those lines, and are in their home, that’s their right.  It’s their opinion, and I am no one to judge them or challenge them.  As long as they are PC in public, believe what you like.  But in the end, if it truly affected some one in your family, I would hope to see these people being loving and supportive (in a perfect world).  Because love, patience, understanding, these are the true foundations in the milk of human kindness.

So, back to the topic at hand, I started to look up information on whether this profoundly ignorant process be true.  To my dismay, it IS TRUE.  And I am disheartened and baffled by the audacity to deny something as precious as blood because of a person’s sexuality. I mean, they SAY they test all blood right?  If that;’s true, then what’s the problem?  Any one can have HIV, AIDS, HEP A/B/C, anything!  Nothing harmful is limited to only one sexual preference, and this is well known information in this day and age!  So, at the risk of controversy on my facebook page, I made a post that is one of those few and far between notes that I rarely like to debate about.  And below my post is the link to a Huffington Post Article on the subject:

Now, I am bit offended and confused. I know and love dearly, many people who are not exactly all for or all understanding of homosexuality. Ok, I never pick those fights. But here, in this article, is something I find personally offensive. We are in such crisis for important health related items, such as blood. We are in no position to get picky here. People need blood, just like we need air and water and food. WE NEED IT. But to deny someone’s blood because of their sexual preference is truly a disturbing idea to me. It fails my personal value standards of health and providing essential life necessities.

What’s more is this is such an offensive statement: We do not want your blood because you are a man who slept with a man. Cover your eyes, Mom. I’ve slept with a man, too! You’ll take my blood because I was born a woman! What’s the difference?!?! I can’t say I have always had safe sex (proof is in the pudding there, if you know me, you know what I mean). I can’t say I haven’t had more than 1 partner. Yet, my blood is ok? Meanwhile, my friend’s blood won’t be taken because HE too has done the same things I have? All because his preference is also for men???Like ANY ONE is going to be laying there in emerge, or in the OR saying: Hey! Is that gay man’s blood? Because I don’t want it!Like hell. If I’m in need of blood, give me the gay man’s blood! I’m a self-preservationalist like that! Seriously, I don’t care who you tapped, this fluid is as precious as gold in this day and age.But then again, these are very crazy times. We fight over the most minor things. We disagree about what others do in their own privacy. No one controls me. I am responsible for my words, my actions, the experiences I cause others that I interact with. I am a woman, and I am strong and full of life and experience. And no one holds me down or holds me back. And when I look over to any one of my gay friends (male or female), I don’t think of them as anything other than individuals in their own right. Sexuality does not make the person (unless they are one of those sexual beings, then kudos to them from my conservative mind). Regardless, the point is, denying any one’s blood because of their sexual preference is right back in the dark ages. We reserve the right to deny no one good health (in the perfect world in my head, mind you). And if we would give them blood should they need it (Gods Forbid) then we should take it for others in need.

Denying their blood decreases supplies of blood to children, mothers, fathers, sisters, brothers, aunts, uncles, cousins, spouses, friends, well, basically every one. Yet we cry out for more donors every day. We need more! Please Give! If you have Type O, we really could use your donation!

Or maybe this is the new Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell. Either way, it has left me angry, feeling saddened that we, as people, aren’t able to move beyond such minor issues as the sexuality of others, and looking forward to a more understanding, more open minded society that does not ban essential donations such as blood from anyone.

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